National Geographic : 2008 Nov
PHOTO JOURNAL I ED KASHI Herbie's illness changed simple private rituals, like shaving, into shared efforts. Some days the eightysomething New Jersey native was his familiar self-funny and warm, a dapper widower who'd served in World War II and been a successful lawyer. On other days Julie felt the father she had always known and loved was already gone. Disabled by dementia and a Parkinson's-type movement disorder, Herbie needed nearly constant assistance-to dress, bathe, eat, rise from a chair, take his medications at the right times. Between her parent and her children, Julie said, "there was not a minute of the day that somebody didn't need something from me."