National Geographic : 1921 Oct
TIe Only Sure Way to Avoid Embarrassment W E have all had our embar rassing moments. We all suffered moments of keen hu miliation, when we wished that we had not done or said a cer tain thing. We have all longed, at some time or other, to know just what the right thing was to do, or say, or write. Every day, in our business and social life, puz zling little questions of good conduct What arise. We know YOU that people judge us by our actions, -if c and we want to do a retaura and say only what -if yo is absolutely in good m form. But, oh, the -if u embarrassing blun- table-lin n ders that are made -if do every day by peo- were lefw ple who do not alone? know! -if as The Only Way There is only one sure way to be calm and well-poised at all times-to be re spected, honored -if yo blh mal affair? These ar( the hundre< in which yc exactly thi todoorsay and admired wherever you hap pen to be. And that is by knowing definitely, positively, the correct thing to do on all occasions. Whether you are dining in the most exclusive restaurant or at the most hum ble home, whether you are at the most elaborate ball or the most simple barn-dance, whether you are in the company of bril liant celebrities or ordinary people, you will be immune to all embarrassment, you will be safe from all blundering mis takes-if you know the simple rules of etiquette. What Is Etiquette? Etiquette is not a fad. It is not a principle or theory or be lief. It is meant not merely for the very wealthy or for the ex tremely well-educated. It is Would IDo veral plates and afing-dish were t before you in t and you did ow to use them? u arrived late an entertain ent? u overturned a p of coffee on our hostess' u were intro ced to a noted celebrity and ith him, or her, ou were not ked to dance at ball? ou made an nbarrassing under at a for eonlyafewof Is of situations ou should know e correct thing r. meant for all peo ple, who, in the course of their everyday life, find it necessary to keep themselves well in hand; to impress by their culture, their dignity; to know how to be trusted and respected in business, and ad mired in the social world; and for wo men who wish to be considered at all times cultured and charming. It is embarrass ing to overturn a cup of coffee and not know just what to say to the hostess. It is em barrassing to arrive late to an entertainment, and not know the correct way to excuse your self. It is embarrassing to be introduced to some brilliant celebrity, and not know how to acknowledge the introduction and lead subtly to channels of interesting conversation. The man who is polished, im pressive, and the woman who is cultured, will find the doors of the most exclusive society Do you know the correct thing to say in this embarrassing situation? Do you know the correct way to introduce people f Do you know how to word an nouncements and invitations? Do you know how to create conversation when left alone with a noted person?